Believe The Best About Your Spouse

Believing the best about your spouse is a personal but very important choice you have to make whether there is a reason to believe the best or not. Love believes the best, not because there is any good enough reason to do that, in the midst of that hurt and betrayal, yet you believe.
During one of my counseling session, a woman cried and complained so bitterly, ‘my husband is the worst man on earth, and he doesn’t love me and doesn’t care about the children anymore. Sometimes he goes away for days and comes home without any explanation or apology.’
It is absolutely impossible to believe the best when there no reason at all to encourage you to do that. Believing based on what you see or hear, or how you feel, yes it is impossible.
Let go of the hurt feeling and ask God to heal and comfort you. Begin to treat them as if they are the best thing in your life.
Believing the best based on what you are hoping to see or what you desire to see in your relationship, yes I can say it is possible.
A great question to usually ask when you are in conflict or hurting is: ‘Am I trying to prove that I’m right and hurting or do I want to see this relationship saved?’ You cannot do both at the same time. Sometimes we are simply supposed to love, simply supposed to walk by faith and not by sight.
Hold yourself together in the midst of that pain and decide that you must move forward in your love walk. Your spouse may have hurt you, yes, but choose to believe the best because you are trusting God for a change and that change will happen.
Do not fret or get anxious if no change is coming quickly, keep believing, keep speaking words of life to your life and to your spouse.
Ask God to help you look above and beyond what you are experiencing, so that you can only see the best.
Surely, there must be one tiny, little good thing about your spouse, dwell on it and don’t let their bad side take your eyes away from the good. It is a battle and good will always win.
Make the choice today to always believe the best.

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Congratulations on your wedding anniversary Mr & Mrs Lanre Alabi

14years of God's faithfulness

  

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Happy Anniversary Mr & Mrs David Sola Oludoyi

Friendship and laughter 

has helped us along the way, 

22 years on.

 Congratulations and happy wedding anniversary

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Things to do with your spouse this season

1: Go see a movie
'Ghana Must Go'

Congratulations to the Ezekwesili's

Our latest and only wife! Isn't she lovely?

Welcome to the Ezekwesili clan

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Happy Anniversary Mr & Mrs Raimi

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Happy Anniversary Mr & Mrs Omoniyi El-gibbor Akomolafe

Today mark's our 5th year wedding anniversary... He could only be God!!!

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Happy Anniversary Mr & MrsOlasupo Balogun

 It's two years today when we said " i do " to each other.
God has been so wonderful to us in this journey and i give Him all the glory.

 Happy Wedding Anniversary to my loving and caring husband , I love you with all my heart.

May God bless and increase you on every side IJN (Amen )

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Happy Anniversary Mr & Mrs Solanke

Together Forever

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Marriage is honorable

Mrs. Lovett Obiakalusi

Marriage is an institution God Himself ordained and blessed. He said, that marriage is good and a thing of favor, because he that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from God. Marriage is honorable, still honorable and a thing to be enjoyed and desired. It is meant to be a celebration, still a celebration and must remain a celebration.
We need to put in little effort called commitment and hard work (love, respect, submission, etc.) and we are good to go.
Do you know what?
This commitment and hard work has become a very big deal and has led to the enduring and mourning of many marriages.
Divorce, separation, single parenting and more, are now trending and preferred to God's ordained values. It is pertinent however, to note that in this same era, there are still couples, who uphold these God ordained values, and are enjoying a blissful married life.
This is not to deny or pretend that there are no genuinely challenged marriages or families, the mandate is just to stand on what the Designers manual prescribes.
Valiant women Awards, a divine call, designed to recognize, commend and celebrate these exceptional Christian women in marriages who are upholding this critical Godly values, held its maiden event recently. This epoch event took place on the 13/11/2016 at the prestigious Sheraton hotel, Ikeja, Lagos. The event drew noble men and women from far and near.
VWAwards discovered Mr. and Mrs. Teekee Debekeme, a Nigerian couple from Bayelsa (Teekee) and Anambra (Faith), this two have been in Marriage for over 58 years. This couple having only a child, who is a female, not only remained in marriage but kept the spark of romance. The marriage has proven to the whole world that it is still possible to live God's own marriage design in a world that shows out right rebellion to God and His laws. Mr. Teekee, 89years and Mrs. Faith, 86 years old, together are having an awesome time with God in their marriage. Mrs. Faith Nebechukwu Debekeme won the Golden woman Award.
The valiant woman 2016 went to Apostle (Mrs.) Busola Jegede a home builder, entrepreneur, writer, preacher, mother and a "helpmeet". A role model, counsellor and mentor to thousands of women all around the world. A Chartered Accountant (ACA), who sacrificed her career and ambition to raising her young family and supporting her husband every inch of the way. In exchange, she became an entrepreneur and a builder of destinies.
She is the founder of;
1. BLISS PARTY PLANNERS
2. DAUGHTERS OF DESTINY INTERDENOMINATIONAL FELLOWSHIP
3. THE SUCCOUR FOR WOMEN CARE, among many others. All of which are geared towards the making of a total woman under God. I was careful to learn from her, what the secret of her marital success was, Love, SUBMISSION and respect was the price she paid.
The Role Model Award went to Mrs. Ada Cecilia Ozoadibe. A civil servant with the nation's Apex bank. She is a builder, counsellor and speaker. Has affinity to charitable activities. Mentored hundreds of women and have been a strong support to several dysfunctional families both near and far.
Her secret is the fear of the Lord, submission and respect.
She has built for herself a marriage of color and glamour.
Mrs. Ozoadibe hails from Oji-River in Enugu state.
The heroin Award for courage and sacrifice went to Dr. (Mrs.) Stella Ameyo Adadevoh for her bravery in rescuing our dear country even when she was certain the price could be death.
We salute her courage.
Special recognition award went to Mr. Elisha Attai, a strong advocate for the development and advancement of the African woman. He is the founder of the African Women in Leadership Organization (AWLO), the initiator and organizer of the African Women in Leadership conference (AWLC), among other things.
He is happily married and blessed with lovely children.
The awardees are to serve as inspiration and examples for families and other women across the nations of the earth, as they show the core values of love, respect and submission as a vital tool in enjoying peace in the family.
VWAwards is the initiative of Women of Valour Global Mission and Harriet New Life Foundation, two organizations determined to restore critical Christian values and good life in families and societies.
The food bank, every child counts, Singles time out, Couples weekend getaway, We Pray, Love forum and more, are projects to look out for.
Owing to the huge success recorded in this median outing, plans are in top gear for the commencement of the second edition.
The nomination window will open soon.
On behalf of VWAwards I congratulate all the award recipients.
Marriage is good, honorable, desirable and a thing to be enjoyed.
Spread the message, keep the flag flying.
Jesus is Lord.

Author:  Lovett Obiakalusi
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Happy Anniversary Mr & Mrs Shola Hassan

Ayanfemi Ololufemi, duduyemi ,adunmaradan, Adenike temi, my one and only, my treasure Marriage of years ten, Should be carved into poems by pen!!! Happy wedding anniversary!!!. I really love you.


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THE WORKING COUPLE

How do you cope with a situation where everyday your spouse's job has already taken the best out of him/her before she gets home late in the evenings only to tell you he/she is tired whenever you need to have SEX?

So Closely Apart

 

We believe in friendship, that is what ADAMAS wants to restore, create or recreate in homes. Many couples have lost touch and intimacy even while under the same roof.  

Are you experiencing distance in your marriage?

Let's talk about it before it is too late.

send a mail titled 'ADAMAS HELP' to detailng@yahoo.com

Is your spouse frustrated?

Suggest solutions or share your experience.

 

According to WIKIPEDIA: 

In psychology, frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related to anger and disappointment, it arises from the perceived resistance to the fulfillment of individual will. The greater the obstruction, and the greater the will, the more the frustration is likely to be. Causes of frustration may be internal or external. In people, internal frustration may arise from challenges in fulfilling personal goals and desires, instinctual drives and needs, or dealing with perceived deficiencies, such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Conflict can also be an internal source of frustration; when one has competing goals that interfere with one another, it can create cognitive dissonance. External causes of frustration involve conditions outside an individual, such as a blocked road or a difficult task. While coping with frustration, some individuals may engage in passive–aggressive behavior, making it difficult to identify the original cause(s) of their frustration, as the responses are indirect. A more direct, and common response, is a propensity towards aggression

Happy Anniversary Sola and Benedicta Soetan

An Open Letter To My Wife

Exactly two years ago today,I walked down the aisle with a beautiful angel called Benedicta... That moment was the most defining moment in my life..From that time till now,it has been the most amazing journey filled with love,sacrifice, forgiveness and prosperity.
Benedicta, I love you. You are indeed my missing rib,the best part of me. And if you are the best part of me,that means I can't live without you right? Yea! I cant,cos you complete me.
This is to many more years together in fruitfulness,happiness, joy,ever increasing abundance and love.
Congratulations to us dearie.
Much Love.

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ADDICTIONS

If it is a good thing it won't be tagged addiction. Your spouse may have an addiction he or she may not be willing to share; unfortunately, this may just be the source of the problem in your home. 

Addiction may sometimes look harmless, a little drunkenness, masturbation, little cocaine just to feel good, gambling, sex within or outside marriage etc.

what do we do to get out of these addictions?

FINDING JOY IN THE JOURNEY

Faces at the VALIANT WOMEN AWARDS

Extol and Frank Edwards

 Extol and Lilian Imoni

Extol and Clara Chinwe Okoro

Happy 10th year anniversary Mr& Mrs Bukky Omoseni

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Congratulations Mr & Mrs Dapo Adetomi

Dapo Adetomi:
Being Married to my best friend for all these years has simply been amazing. ..check out our "playful funny faces"...lol. Happy Anniversary Chicssy!

Chika Adetomi:
Just cos its 10yrs since I said "I do" 😘😘❤️    

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